Felt Sense Psychotherapy Blog

One of the biggest misconceptions about emotional health is the idea that being “regulated” means being calm, even, or unbothered most of the time. It doesn’t. Emotional regulation isn’t the absence of emotion. It’s the ability to move through emotion without getting stuck, overwhelmed, or shut down—and to return to a baseline afterward. Emotions are not problems to solve. They are signals, action tendencies, and information. When we understand what each core emotion is for,

Many people walk into therapy carrying a quiet but crushing belief: “I’m a bad person.” Not because they abuse, exploit, or intentionally harm others—but because they’ve made mistakes. They’ve hurt people they cared about. They didn’t show up the way they wish they had. They reacted instead of responding. They crossed a boundary. They stayed too long. They left too fast. They engaged in deceit. And somewhere along the way, those moments stopped being things that happened and

At Felt Sense Psychotherapy (FSP), we believe that true healing begins in the body. While many therapy approaches focus primarily on thoughts and behaviours, felt sense psychotherapy emphasizes the importance of fully experiencing and processing emotions physically and emotionally. This emotion focused and somatic approach to therapy helps clients move beyond intellectual understanding to embody real, lasting change. What is Felt Sense Psychotherapy? Felt sense psychotherapy

When we think about autism, many people focus on social differences or sensory sensitivities—but there’s a layer that’s often overlooked: the strategies people develop to navigate a neurotypical world. Two common coping mechanisms are hyper-focusing on appearance and turning to substances. Both can be ways of managing stress, anxiety, and overwhelming environments. Hyper-Focusing on Appearance: Survival and Social Safety For many autistic individuals, social interactions can

There’s this subtle irony in our work: being a therapist can feel hardest when life is going well. When we’re happy, when we feel light, playful, even bubbly—it doesn’t always make our job easier. In fact, it can make it surprisingly exhausting. As therapists, a huge part of our role is containment. We hold space for our clients’ raw, messy, often overwhelming emotions. We witness grief, anger, fear, shame—and we do it while staying grounded ourselves. That’s challenging enou

Therapy is transformative, but cost can often feel like a barrier. At Felt Sense Psychotherapy (FSP), we’re committed to making mental health care accessible to everyone, which is why we offer affordable therapy sessions with our supervised student therapists. This means you can receive high-quality, professional support at a lower cost, while helping the next generation of therapists gain practical experience. Why Affordable Therapy Matters Many people delay seeking therapy

Self-sabotage is a term we often use with shame, frustration, or confusion. “Why do I keep doing this?” “Why do I ruin the things I actually want?” “What is wrong with me?” From an adaptive therapy perspective, the answer is: nothing is wrong with you. Your behaviour makes sense once we understand what it’s protecting. Self-sabotage is rarely sabotage. It is an *adaptive strategy* —a learned pattern your nervous system developed to keep you safe, regulated, or connected in en

The holidays have a way of stirring up everything we’ve tried to neatly pack away throughout our lives. For many people, spending time with family is comforting and nourishing. But for others, it means being around relatives who are emotionally immature, dismissive, or unwilling to take accountability for past hurts. And that can feel heavy. If you’re deciding to show up anyway—not because you want to, but because the fallout of not going feels even harder—you’re not alone. M

One of the most painful parts of surviving an assault is the question that follows: “Why didn’t I fight back?” or “Why didn’t I run?” Many survivors turn that question inward, layering shame and self-blame on top of an already unbearable experience. But the truth is that your body wasn’t failing you — it was protecting you. The Science Behind Freeze: When a person is threatened, the nervous system instantly scans for the safest and most effective way to survive. This happens

The Ache That Never Leaves There were no parents. Not really. Just people who should have been soft and weren’t. People who called it love but never looked long enough to see me. I grew up too fast not out of brilliance, but necessity. Someone had to keep things together, and no one else would. So I became the adult, the caretaker, the one who didn’t break. Now everyone tells me I’m so capable. So strong. They say it like it’s a compliment, but I hear it as a scar. They don’t

Healing is not just something that happens in the mind. Many of us spend years trying to “think” our way through discomfort, trauma, or emotional challenges—but the truth is, our bodies often hold the story first. This is where felt sense therapy comes in, inviting us to slow down, tune in, and truly experience what’s happening within. Felt sense therapy is rooted in the belief that our bodies carry wisdom. Our sensations, movements, images, emotions, and the meanings we atta

This worksheet is designed to support you in dating with a secure mindset. Secure dating means showing up authentically, respecting your needs and boundaries, and allowing trust and intimacy to develop gradually. Use these prompts to prepare for dates, stay grounded during them, and reflect afterward. Just a reminder, rejection is redirection and not a reflection of your worth. Some people just aren't a good fit. 1. Preparing with a Secure Mindset Ask yourself before dating:

Emotions are not problems to fix—they are signals to listen to. Each emotion carries information about your needs, values, and experiences. For many people, emotions can feel overwhelming, scary, or even shameful, especially if you were taught to hide or minimize them. This worksheet is designed to help you build a friendlier relationship with your emotional world. Why Do Emotions Feel So Hard? You may feel scared, judgmental, or disconnected from emotions because: - You lear

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