Why You Keep “Losing Your Shit” Over Small Things — and How to Work With Your Nervous System

We’ve all been there:

You snap at your partner because they left the dishes out.

You explode over a tiny mistake at work.

You burst into tears because the Wi-Fi stopped working.

And afterward, you’re left thinking: Why did I react like that? Why can’t I handle small stuff like a normal person?

If this sounds familiar, you’re not broken — but you are probably dealing with a nervous system that’s overworked, overwhelmed, and under-supported.

It’s Not About “Small Things” — It’s About a Stretched Nervous System

Your nervous system is like your body’s internal alarm system. It helps you manage stress, stay calm under pressure, and bounce back after hard moments.

But when you’re constantly:

• Juggling too many responsibilities,

• Ignoring your own needs,

• Running on little rest or emotional support,

• Or carrying around old emotional wounds,

… your nervous system can’t tell the difference between small stress and big stress.

Everything starts to feel like an emergency.

That’s why minor annoyances can push you over the edge — not because you’re “too sensitive” or “dramatic,” but because your body is already operating at full capacity.

What’s Really Going On Under the Surface

Here’s what’s often underneath those “overreactions”:

• Unmet needs (physical or emotional). Are you hungry, exhausted, touched-out, or emotionally depleted?

• Lack of support. Are you carrying too much on your own, without help or space to recharge?

• Old trauma or attachment wounds. Have you learned that it’s not safe to express small frustrations, so they build up until they explode?

• Nervous system dysregulation. Is your body stuck in chronic stress mode (fight, flight, freeze) without enough time to come down?

None of these are moral failings. They are signs that your system needs care, not punishment.

How Therapy Helps You Regulate, Not Suppress

Trying to force yourself to “stay calm” or “just let it go” when you’re on the edge never works for long — because the issue isn’t willpower, it’s nervous system capacity.

In therapy, you can:

• Learn to recognize the signs that your system is overloaded.

• Build tools to self-regulate before you hit a breaking point.

• Identify core needs you’ve been ignoring (and start meeting them).

• Process past hurts that keep amplifying your emotional reactions today.

• Develop more supportive patterns and boundaries in your life, so you’re not constantly stretched thin.

You Deserve More Than Just Surviving

You don’t have to live in a constant state of holding it together — only to unravel over the smallest thing. With the right support, you can build a life where you feel more grounded, more resourced, and more in control.

If you’re tired of feeling ashamed or out of control, therapy offers a compassionate space to understand what’s really going on — and to work with your nervous system, not against it.

Want to explore this together?

The therapists at FSP offer therapy for individuals who want to better understand their emotional patterns, rebuild nervous system resilience, and create more ease in their daily lives.

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